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PEOPLE OF IBADAN: D-GADGE BOOKSHOP

When you sell a man a book, you don’t sell just twelve ounces of paper and ink and glue. You sell him a whole new life. Love and friendship and humour and ships at sea by night – There’s all heaven and earth in a book, a real book. – Christopher Morley.
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R FOR RESENTMENT

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Hey guys, I will be discussing the word –RESENTMENT.
If you ask me to describe the word Resentment, I will most likely describe or define it as the HIGHEST form of HATE.

The MARIAM WEBSTER dictionary defines it as:
A) A FEELING OF ANGER OR DISPLEASURE ABOUT SOMEONE OR SOMETHING.

B) A FEELING OF INDIGNANT DISPLEASURE OR PERSISTENT ILL WILL AT SOMETHING REGARDED AS A WRONG, INSULT OR INJURY.

And like what most people say, RESENTMENT is a very strong word.

So I did this poll asking friends about how they would feel if someone they love dearly said they resented them. I got some deep responses. This poll was done via the Whatsapp Messenger App, so i just inserted screenshots of their responses to the post.

See them below :

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So many screen-shots. Truth is RESENTMENT is a very strong word. And one question that I’ve asked in the past few weeks is this : HOW CAN LOVE SUDDENLY TURN INTO RESENTMENT?
I mean it makes no sense. Most times we get really angry at those we love, in fact, I read somewhere that nobody annoys you better than someone you date… And your Mother… Lol.
So it’s okay. They are bound to happen. It’s fair to feel resentment for the person at that particular time the person hurts you or when you find out about the act. But staying bitter and angry way after you’ve had the time to think and forgive is wrong. In fact, having to tell the person face to face that you resent them is really bad, dangerous. This is someone you are supposed to love.

Now I ask my question again “How can love possibly turn to resentment?”

Prince Ea answered my question when he said “my last romantic relationship went from “love” to bitter resentment, blame and harsh criticism in a few months. How could love ever turn into THAT? Because love is an art, sustained by deeper looking, humility, and self inquiry. Perhaps most importantly, love is based on freedom. The freedom to be who we are, not WHO we want each others to become. Because my projection of you will always get in the way of seeing the beauty that you truly are. It’s Okay to be angry, bitter and full of blame but not Okay to stay that way. Only until we look deeply into ourselves and question our thoughts do we have the capacity to purely love ourselves and others. ❤

Resentment doesn’t even hurt the resented. If the person finds out he or she will get obviously sad, cry and all that. But the real harm is on the person who resents. He or she would always feel bitter and Trust me that’s really TOXIC.
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If someone I love says they resent me, I’m going to spend the next few days crying out my heart because I’m a very “emosh” person like that. And it HURTS. IT HURTS BIG TIME. :'(:'(:'(💔💔💔

If you are reading this and you feel bitter or you have resentment for someone, especially when that person did not kill your best friend or steal your 50literes of fuel (😂😂), honey, you have to heal. Resentment comes from within and that’s why we transfer the bitter pills to others – those who deserve genuine love and who aren’t even capable of hurting anyone.
Resentment destroys the best of relationships. It kills genuine love. Talk about it, how you feel towards the person you claim to resent, open up. It’s better that way. Most times the resentee has no idea what he or she did. Bottling it up is very bad. It’s poisonous. It’s Toxic.

And if someone you love says they resent you, cry if you have to. Think. If you have faults try to work on them. Nobody is perfect my dear, perfection is over rated. Try to talk and and make amends but if the person isn’t ready to move past the resentment and the bitterness, then move on. Ain’t no good being around someone who RESENTS you… Don’t over think it, it’s not YOU, it’s THEM.

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MANDELA’S WORDS ON MARBLE

  • ImageImageImage·         Appearances matter – and remember to smile.
  • ·         As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
  • ·         I am the captain of my soul.
  • ·         Where you stand depends on where you sit.
  • ·         I am not a saint, unless you think of a saint as a sinner who keeps on trying.
  • ·         The greatest glory in living lies not in ever falling, but in rising every time we fall.
  • ·         As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison.
  • ·         Lead from the back and let others believe they are in front.
  • ·         One of the things I learned when I was negotiating was that until I changed my self, I could not change others.
  • ·         It is said that no one truly knows a nation until one has been inside its jails. A nation should not be judged by how it treats its highest citizens, but its lowest ones.
  • ·         Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.
  • ·         A good head and a good heart are always a formidable combination. But when you add to that a literate tongue or pen, then you have something very special.
  • ·         It always seems impossible until it is done.
  • ·         After climbing a great hill, one only finds that there are many more hills to climb.
  • ·         Poverty is not an accident, life slavery and apartheid; it is manmade and can be removed by the actions of human beings.
  • ·         As I have said the first thing is to be honest with yourself.
  • ·         WE ASK OURSELVES, WHO AM I TO BE BRILLIANT, GORGEOUS, HANDSOME, TALENTED AND FABULOUS? ACTUALLY, WHO ARE YOU NOT TO BE?
  • ·         Courage is not the absence of fear – it is inspiring others to move beyond it.
  • ·         Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.
  • ·         ONCE A PERSON IS DETERMINED TO HELP THEMSELVES, THERE IS NOTHING THAT CAN STOP THEM.

NELSON MANDELA

Nelson Mandela,Dead, at 95
Nelson Mandela,Dead, at 95

“When a man is denied the right to live the life he believes in, he has no choice but to become an outlaw.”
― Nelson Mandela

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
― Nelson Mandela

“I am fundamentally an optimist. Whether that comes from nature or nurture, I cannot say. Part of being optimistic is keeping one’s head pointed toward the sun, one’s feet moving forward. There were many dark moments when my faith in humanity was sorely tested, but I would not and could not give myself up to despair. That way lays defeat and death.”
― Nelson Mandela, Long Walk to Freedom: Autobiography of Nelson Mandela

July 18, 1918 – December 5, 2013

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